Myth: My partner wants to use sex toys. I must be sexually inadequate. Whenever buying (or considering buying) a sex toy, it's a good idea to consider the feelings of your partner. Discussing sex toys with your partner before introducing them into your sex lives is not only respectful, but in many cases quite necessary. Many people assume that sex toys are purchased to fulfill some sort of sexual inadequacy. This is most often not the case. Discuss your reasons for buying a sex toy with your partner; it's usually necessary to prevent any hurt feelings. Most people, when approached with the topic of their partner purchasing a sex toy, are very eager to comply. This will very often open the door for many discussions between a couple on the topic of sex, where many people feel uncomfortable bringing up the topic to begin with.
Myth: What if my partner enjoys the toys more than me? Change your train of thought to think of sex toys as an extension of your own hands. Your partner is still receiving pleasure from you even though you may hold a toy in your hand to help facilitate in pleasure. It's fun and essential to explore sexual potential whether alone or with a partner. There are thousands of flavors of ice cream...think of sex the same way. Different varieties keep life interesting. Most people buy sex toys because they're an enjoyable way to explore new possibilities, keeping your sex life exciting and thrilling.
Myth: I'll get addicted to sex toys and won't be able to reach orgasm without them. There's a very human propensity to become familiar with a particular form of stimulation. Whether it's cunnilingus from your partner, or vaginal penetration from your dildo, there are some forms of stimulation you count on to quench your sexual thirst. You can become addicted to the thought that you know what toys work the best, but you won't become addicted to them in the sense that you'll never be able to reach orgasm without them. Experiment with new positions, new toys and new activities. Keep trying new things and you'll never be sexually dependent on any one particular practice.
Myth: Using a vibrator will cause damage to my genitals. There's absolutely no physiological basis for such an argument. Vibrators can occasionally make genitals feel numb during or immediately after use but the sensitivity will always return. Experiment with different forms of stimulation during sex play to decrease any numbing effects. And always remember to use plenty of lubrication to cut down on any friction.
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